Think about what it means to be ladylike and all of the adjectives that go along with it: elegant, cultured, classy, sophisticated. To be successful at being feminine means being successful at being private, keeping your body’s natural functions behind closed doors and never letting anyone know they exist. It means to be constrained, that you do not let your legs spread wide in public transportation and you do not make noises that are harsh on the ears. It means presenting a polished, shiny surface to the world at all times, one that allows others to project whatever they wish onto you while never showing too much of your true self."
I had this male friend who was with me in the hospital when I started labor.
He said the noises he could hear while walking down the hall were really turning him on.
Pissed me off.
Ten years and I am still pissed.
Once when I was in extreme pain due to fibro, I was told I “sound pretty hot.” I can’t even feel physical agony without being objectified. THAT IS FUCKED UP.